I want to give you a great technique to make an impact with others. When you are with someone else are you totally focused on them? Or, are you thinking about everything else you could be doing and even answering your cell phone while you’re with them? These are not actions that help relationships!
The technique that has changed my life I call the “For This Moment Technique”. The first time I remember realizing this was 25 years ago when our son, Sean, who is now 28, was 3 years old. I was in our minivan doing errands with Sean and the other three children were with their grandma. About a mile from grandma’s home the minivan died – deader than a door nail. I got all stressed out thinking about how I was going to get the van fixed, picking up the rest of the kids, getting Sean home, etc. I finally decided just to walk to my mom’s with Sean and call the fix-it person when I got there. We started walking and the stress just go higher and higher and I was thinking about everything that wasn’t getting done. Suddenly I stopped and realized that it was a beautiful day in Iowa and I was holding the hand of the most adorable 3-year old in the entire world! For that moment I put my focus totally on Sean, we had a great walk home, and everything got taken care of.
Focus = Doing something and thinking about it at the same time.
Right now what are you totally focused on? Is it reading this post or 10 other things? When you’re in conversation with someone are you totally focused on them or everyone else in the room? I want you to know that if you will start using the “For This Moment Technique” when you’re with others you will start changing your relationships overnight. The other person will feel totally cared for and very special. It works! This is your time to make an impact on others.