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Sweet60Success: Day 35: Bring back that loving feeling

8-4-14-that-lovin-feelingOur niece, Angela, got married in Duluth, MN.  What a lovely area!  The ceremony was beautiful and the reception was held at The Kitchi Gammi Club.  Fabulous place for a reception and very unique.

After the bridal party was introduced at the reception Tim and Angela came out with hands held high and ran and started high-fiving their friends.  I love the pure joy on Angela’s face.

Do you remember the pure joy you had when you started your business?  Was everything you did a ‘high-five’ experience?

How do you feel about your business now?  Have you lost that ‘loving feeling’?

This happens to all of us.  When you feel this way it is extremely important to connect again to the ‘why’ of why you started your business.  The why can be easy to forget when we get into the day-to-day tasks necessary to run our business.

Get your loving feeling back about your business and watch new ideas flood into your brain. When you get as excited about your business as you were on the day you started – something great will happen.  It’s not gone, gone, gone – it’s still within you!

So bring all back, bring all back
Bring back that loving feeling
Oh, that loving feeling
Bring back that loving feeling
Cause it’s gone…gone…gone…
And I can’t go on…
Whoa-oh

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Sweet60Success: Day 14: Is it time to look up?

I spend a lot of time7-14-14-time-to-look-up in front of my computer in my office or when traveling I’m on my laptop or iPad.  I spend a lot of time looking down.

Imagine my surprise one night when I looked up and saw the most gorgeous full moon ever!  What an amazing sight.

I decided I need to look up more often and have a new view.

It’s time to get out of my office to do some of my creative thinking.  It’s time to take some of my calls with my coaching clients in another area of my office. It’s time to visit a local coffee shop and work on my next book project.

Are you in need of a new view?  Is it time for you to ‘look up’ today?

Surprise someone today

3072ae21-60a9-4796-bf41-f04de3f739ce tulipsChris, Ashley, and Addi gave me a pot of beautiful plants for Mother’s Day. They surprised me.

Sean and Cassi got me beautiful tulips for Mother’s Day. They surprised me.

Being surprised is a great feeling!

I’m going to surprise someone today. What will you do today to make someone else smile?!

Organize. Focus. Love.

 

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Today I was thinking about the last time I helped mom organize her closet in her home. We took everything out of her closet and went through each item. Yes, every item!

As my mom would go through a pile I’d bring some more things out from the closet and she’d start to look at those new items and I’d say ‘”Focus!” and she’d get back on track! It’s so easy to get distracted while organizing because it’s hard to make decisions. It seems easier to set things aside and start looking at a new pile. It takes a lot of discipline to stay focused and keep making decisions. That’s why it helps to have someone with you while you work. Even better if that person can say “Focus!” with a very authoritative voice.

Even though my mom doesn’t have that much stuff we ended up giving away bags of clothes. Her closet looked fantastic when we were done. Everything was sorted and labeled. And what was left were things she really enjoyed wearing.

That night I received an email from my mom which said:
Dear Blossom in the Snow,

Such good feelings about this remarkable day and our communication and being protected by in and out and our giggles PLUS the stunning closet completion. I think I was really rash in all I tossed out, but I likely won’t miss a bit. Thanks for the stern FOCUS reminders and results. Unbelievable. Super many thanks and hope the ride home was a happy one. Take care of yourself, in and out, you are a special creation of God.

Love you,
Mom

I love you, too mom.

What makes you happy?

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Spring and warmer weather makes me happy. Spending time with my granddaughter makes me happy. Going to a movie makes me happy. Coaching my business clients makes me happy. Reading a great novel makes me happy. I really could go on and on!

What makes you happy?

For my dad it was time spent fishing. I never understood this but I could always feel dad’s excitement whether he was leaving for a day of fishing or for a week.

My dad has lived 89 wonderful years but we just moved him to hospice care and we may only have weeks left with him. I’m treasuring every moment. My Uncle Marv emailed me some pictures of dad recently and I was awestruck when I saw this picture of my dad and the sunset. This was a truly perfect day for him.

As I look back over the years I realized dad made time for what made him happy.

Do you?

I think we can get so caught up with our busy life we don’t think about if most of the things we do make us happy. Do you think if you do the things that make you happy you have to leave others out of the picture?

IMG_0123  Fishing was not my thing at all but I remember my dad taking me along ice fishing and I would ice skate as he fished. I remember suntanning and reading a book on the dock or in the boat as he fished right by me.

He would catch his big fish and I’d be happy with what were in my mind ‘my big fish’.

Action Steps:
* How can you start incorporating what makes you happy in your life?
* How can you include others even if what you’re doing is not their thing?

Let me know below what you’re going to do in the next couple of days that makes you happy!

There’s a Confidence App for that: Gratitude

If you have any kind of smart phone you know there are a plethora of apps available for you to download and use. Probably millions!

Some of them are for fun, some are useful, and some we can totally waste our time on!

In a post last month I talked to you how cool it would be if when you get hit with self doubts and low self esteem you could touch an app on your phone and feel great.

It doesn’t work that way, of course, because your confidence apps are going to be inside you. But once you know what your confidence apps are you can easily access them when you need them. Designate a place on your body where your confidence app resides – perhaps a pulse point. The next time you start to feel low just touch you APP Place – recall your confidence app and you’ll find yourself instantly feeling confident and sure of yourself.

Really, confidence is like a roller coaster – up and down – up and down – Confidence Apps will help you stay up more than you’re down! Last month the app I asked you to install was the Forgiveness App.

This month I want to give you an app for gratitude which is very applicable since we have Thanksgiving this month!  Did you know that you are not able to complain and be thankful at the same time? It’s true – just try it!

Would you like to be more a person of gratitude than a whiner? I hope so! Here is how you start.

  • Get a beautiful journal that you just love to hold. It should have blank or lined pages. I’m serious here! Don’t just go grab some old spiral notebook – treat yourself to something special.
  • Every day set an appointment with yourself for 5 minutes to write down in your journal what you are grateful for AND what you have done that day that was a success. If you have a day that you can’t think of a success write down a previous success. But, trust me; every day you are on this earth is a success.
  • Make this a glorious habit. Once you get used to doing this you’re going to look forward to this ‘gratitude’ time each day.
  • Watch your mindshift start to happen. Your thinking is going to start being more positive and uplifting. And, you’re going to be more uplifting to others in your life.
  • It’s impossible to whine when you are being thankful. If during the day you start to focus on all that is bad grab your journal and start reading. Your day will change immediately!
  • Stuck on what to write today? Read about some past successes in your journal and your mind will open up and give you the best ideas.
  • Share your successes with supportive people in your life and ask them to share with you. A whole new dialogue is going to happen.

ACTION STEP:

I am committing to writing in my gratitude journal for ____________ days.

Will you write you gratitude in the morning or the evening? _________________

On January 3, 2011 I made a commitment to write what I’m grateful every day for an entire year! Not only write what I’m grateful for but accompany it with a picture on my blog. I’m happy to say that I did this for the entire year and I love going back and seeing what I posted. You will also love going back in your journal in the future.

This is what I wrote on the 365th Day:

I have conflicting feelings today. On the one hand I feel fantastic that I made a commitment 365 days ago to post what I am grateful for every day with a picture for one year. And, I did it! On the other hand I feel like I’m leaving a good friend.

It has been wonderful each day to think back and write about what I am grateful. Were there some days that I was tired and didn’t feel like it? Yes. But I did it anyway.

Looking back I can say that this was one of the best years personally and in my business. Isn’t that interesting?

If you’d like to see some of these posts please look on the right side of this page under Categories click on ‘Days of Gratitude’.

Let me know below what you are grateful for today!

There’s a Confidence App for That: Forgiveness

When I purchased my latest cell phone I had a huge learning curve! But one of the really fun things I do is check out the apps that I can get for my phone. As I was thinking about apps and confidence I thought how cool it would be if when you get hit with self doubts and low self esteem you could touch an app on your phone and feel great.

It doesn’t work that way, of course, because your confidence apps are going to be inside you. But once you know what your confidence apps are you can easily access them when you need them. Designate a place on your body where your confidence app resides – perhaps a pulse point. The next time you start to feel low just touch you APP Place – recall your confidence app and you’ll find yourself instantly feeling confident and sure of yourself.

Really, confidence is like a roller coaster – up and down – up and down – Confidence Apps will help you stay up more than you’re down!

The 1st app I want you to install is the Forgiveness App.

We all make mistakes. I challenge you to find anyone in this world who hasn’t. But hanging on to what we’ve done wrong kills our self esteem and confidence. My husband and I have 5 kids and I’m sure I’ve made 5 million mistakes but if I hung on to what I’ve done wrong I’d never get off the couch.

Here is an example when Chris was 3, Emily was 1, and Abby was a baby. Abby never slept more than 2 hours at a time – which meant that I never slept more than 2 hours at a time. Most days I felt like a walking zombie. Finally at 7 1/2 months old I brought Abby into the doctor just to check – she never seemed sick or feverish – but I thought there must be something I’m missing. The doctor found that Abby had ear infections in BOTH her ears. I felt like the absolute worst mother in the world.  Talk about no confidence in my mothering skills. We started Abby on antibiotics which sometimes worked and sometimes didn’t and at 11 months I brought her to a specialist.  He had us come back a week later and he put tubes in both her ears.  The results were miraculous.. She was a changed child. I blamed myself for being a terrible mother and felt horrible but in my defense how could I have known? I never had an ear infection; Chris and Emily never did, but still,  I needed to forgive myself and have peace in knowing that I did get her help.

That is just one example.  All of us could list pages and pages of things that we’ve done and usually not even intentionally.

Let me share a business example.  I spoke years ago to 750+ high end realtors in Florida. They only sold homes around mountains, oceans, and golf courses. So, no pressure! About 2 minutes into my presentation I totally blanked out. I could not remember one word I wanted to say.  I did the mistake that no speaker should do and I said, “Oh, I forgot what I wanted to say” and then luckily, some thoughts came back to me and I went on. I was so upset and so mad at myself when I was done. After the presentation I was beating myself up and really doubted my worth as a speaker. But then I had a ‘come to Elizabeth meeting’ and asked myself, “Have I ever heard a perfect presentation?”

“No.”

“Will I ever give a perfect presentation?”

“No.”

I needed to forgive myself for messing up and move on.

First thing you MUST do is to forgive yourself, Yes, right now. I’m serious. You are a human being and you are not perfect. And, believe it or not, no one else thinks you are perfect either.

I’m not saying this is easy. But it is time. What you’re hanging on to is hindering you from having the life you want. No change…no change.

Forgive yourself. What a confidence builder!

ACTION STEP: Think of 2 things that you are hanging on to with guilt and write them down.  Now then write down these exact words – I forgive myself for __________________________ and I forgive myself for ________________________________. Then let them go.

Let me know below how you will apply this app to your life.

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