I gave birth to our fourth child, Sean Christian, on August 13, 1985. Sean was a ten-pound, eight-ounce baby. Yes, you read that right!
When he was born he looked like a two-month old! The pictures below are my mom and dad holding him for the first time. Do you think they look a little bit happy?!
Having a baby that size caused some health complications for me, and I was in the hospital an extra day and should have stayed longer.
Even though I came home to a five-year-old, a three-year-old, and a two-year-old with a brand new baby I thought things had to be perfect.
I got home, got Sean settled, and went right into the kitchen and baked homemade bread (yes, with yeast and everything), a big meal, and cookies from scratch. I was back in the hospital very ill three days later.
Something had to change.
I decided to give up perfection and become a real person who didn’t have to have a perfect house, perfect kids, perfect marriage, and a perfect life.
I was free!
As I read this over again I realized while I may have felt free that day from perfectionism, it certainly creeps back in very easily.
I think it can creep in so easily because it feels like perfectionism is going after the best, but this quote tells a different story.
Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves – the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough. Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way.
I remember being back in the hospital very ill but still having to take care of Sean in the hospital as I was nursing him. It’s one thing to be in the hospital yourself when you don’t feel well; it’s another thing to also care for a baby!
Perfectionism and being real don’t mix. As I found out, trying to be perfect can make you sick.
Please don’t make the mistake I made. Be real in your life, your family, your friends, and in your business.
And, forget homemade bread and it’s ok to buy cookies from the grocery store!