is it (and maybe it's just true for me but I'm betting it's true for
others) easier to repeat negative things people say about us then good
things? I have no trouble telling my husband if I get an e-mail
that tells me what I'm doing wrong, but I gloss over positive comments
that I get.
love going to the mailbox and receiving notes from others. I just
received a thank you note from someone I sent a copy of my book Confidence: Now is Your Time. She wrote I
loved the 1st chapter I read and laughed about the cute story of your
blonde-haired Abby exclaiming she was Korean. I think this book
will cause me to do a lot of self reflection and I think the timing to
receive the book was perfect.
I got a note from another gal for who I had left a voice message and she told me I have left your voice message on my phone - so when I need a little pick me up I listen to you.
Wow! These made
me feel great. I wanted to share these thoughts with others but
then almost stopped. You see, what if you think I'm bragging by
telling you this? That's when I realized that it's must easier to pass
on negative comments than positive ones.
Why is that? For me it goes way back to childhood. I was told don't let that go to your head or don't think too much of yourself.
I think that we should let things go to our head and we should think
big of our self. If we don't, who is? Not in an egotistical way or
bragadocious - but in an affirming way.
self-esteem and true confidence comes from within and then we can let
that shine on others. I'm not talking about being obnoxious and me, me,
me. I'm saying that it is a good thing to think that we are
awesome and to really treasure when other people realize the same thing.
Quick, write down 5 fabulous things about yourself. What was your first
reaction to that request? Set those thoughts aside and do it
anyway. Hopefully you'll keep going and write 100 awesome things!
You are an amazing person.
Write a thank you card today and tell someone how amazing they are and what they mean to you.
of my coaching clients has a bulletin board in her office
full of thank you notes. What a great way to remember the thoughts