One of our traditions is to watch the movie Christmas Vacation with Chevy Chase every year. Corny but funny.
In the movie the dad, Clark Griswold, has huge expectations for the holidays. From the lights on the house to the family staying over at their house and getting along to getting a real Christmas tree to buying a swimming pool with his work bonus as a surprise to his family. Of course, nothing goes as planned.
One night Clark and his wife, Ellen, have a conversation:
Ellen: You set standards that no family activity can live up to.
Clark: When have I ever done that?
Ellen: Parties, weddings, anniversaries, funerals, holidays…
Clark: Goodnight, Ellen.
Ellen: Vacations, graduations…
I think we all do this to some degree. We want the holidays to be so amazing that we set expectations that no one can live up to. Including our self.
Is it time to get realistic? Of course we want our times with family to go well, we want to fit in all we want to celebrate in December, and we want everyone to love our gifts, but is it realistic?
Hopeful? Yes. Not realistic. How about we make a pact? Let’s enter into everything we take part of around Christmas with a joyful ‘live and live’ attitude. Let’s not take everything so personal. Let’s give people a break as everyone has ‘stuff’ going on in their lives.
Please give yourself a break, too. Do you have to do all you think you need to do this month? What is super important to you? Put those in the calendar first and then see if you realistically have time for the other activities. If you aren’t running yourself so ragged you’ll be a nicer person to be around!
I want to wish you a wonderful, happy, peaceful Merry Christmas!
Let me know below how being realistic in December helps your celebrations.