Category Archives: Family

2 doors

When I walk down the hallway to my mom’s cottage in her nursing home I have 2 choices.

I can go right to the Pheasant Run cottage and see my Aunt Joy.

Or, I can go left to the Grandview Cottage and see my mom.

Both are great choices. I love both women very much.moms-doorway

But, I always go left

You might think, “Well, of course you’d go left. It’s your mom.”

If you are my friend on Facebook then you know what my mom is like. She is a role model on how to grow old with grace and faith. She gives the most remarkable wisdom which I share so others can be blessed, too. She is a very loving person to visit.

That’s not the only reason I go left. My mom is my priority. I see so many residents who are not their family’s priority and it is heartbreaking.

Every day we have choices. Usually, far more than 2 doors.

Do you know your priority?  Did you notice I didn’t say priorities?

In Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism, he shares that the word priority came into the English language in the 1400s. It meant the very first or prior thing. It was singular. It stayed singular for the next 500 yearsOnly in the 1900s did we pluralize the term and start talking about priorities. Illogically, we reasoned that by changing the word we could bend reality. Somehow, we would now be able to have multiple ‘first’ things. (Italics are quotes from his book on page 16.)

I found this to be fascinating.

Do you ever think about what your priority is? Having a priority doesn’t mean we don’t care about a lot of people and things we need to do. When we choose our priority, we live true to who we are. We aren’t allowing others to make the choice for us.

Can you choose one door?

 

One would think I would talk about being thankful today

After all, tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day here in the US.

And, I am very thankful. In fact, every night for years I write down at least 3 things I’m grateful for from the day.

I hope you are extremely thankful, too.

But, I figured you received enough ‘Thanksgiving’ newsletters this week.

I want to talk to you about 3 words. Just 3 words

I. Love. You..

Can there be any more powerful words than those? Do you say them enough? Do you hear them enough?

I grew up with parents from the World War II and Great Depression era. They rarely said “I love you.” In fact, my dad never did. I think this may have been common among that generation.alex-love-you

When we started having a family I made a vow to myself that I would tell my children how much I loved them any chance I got. And, I did and I do to this day even though they are all adults.

Personally, I don’t think we can say it enough or hear those words enough.

I feel so fortunate that near the end of my dad’s life he started telling me he loved me and it was music to my ears!

Now, my 92-year-young mom says it to me continually.

Now I get to hear it from my grandchildren. Click the play button on the photo to hear my precious Alexander tell me.  I want to hug the stuffing out of him every time I hear it!

As you enter this wonderful holiday season with Thanksgiving and Christmas let’s enter it with a feeling of love and appreciation. Not just on the actual holiday but every day in between.

Who needs to hear “I love you” from you today?

This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. John 15:9 The Message

DIdn’t expect this

I didn’t expect to be writing this article today.

In the middle of the night my precious 92-year-old mom fell in the nursing home. She is now in the hospital and will get therapy and we will see what happens.

mom-outsideShe is so amazing. Her spirit is still one of joy and peace. Oh, to be like her.

There are a multitude of reasons to live an organized life but here is one of the big ones. When things like this happen I can be out of the house in minutes knowing things are under control back home. There are no loose ends. Well, at least not many!

I can now be there for mom which is the most important thing in my life right now.

I am taking care of myself by taking care of mom.  There is such beauty in that.

While other family members sit with her I will take a break to give my teleclass “How to Beat the Guilt of Taking Care of Yourself First” tonight at 6 PM ET.  There is still time to register!

If you feel guilt when you think of taking care of yourself let’s stop this right now! Join me for my next teleclass “How to Beat the Guilt of Taking Care of Yourself First”.

Organization Tip of the Day

Sit down with the children and take out all the board games and card games that you own. Find out which ones the children like to play, which ones have all the pieces, and get rid of the rest. If necessary tape up the boxes or put all the game boards in a bin and all the different game pieces in zip lock bags and label them.

Organization Tip of the Day

Use baskets and bins for the different types of toys. One for Barbies, Barbies’ clothes, hot wheel cars, legos, and be sure and label the bins. If your child is young, print graphics off the computer and tape to the bin. Use the one-in-one-out rule with your children’s toys. For example, when they have a birthday and receive 8 gifts, have them go through their toys and give 8 items to a charity.

Day 28 of my 30-Day Commitment: Moments

With Emily and Micah at Benny's in Denver

Family!  I’m in Denver visiting our daughter, Emily, and Micah flew in, too.  We’re going to visit Colorado State University tomorrow as Micah would like to go to college there.

Moments like these are so precious.  Priceless, actually!

Day 24 of my 30-Day Commitment: Let’s not forget about relationships

Tonight we celebrated Chris and Ashley’s 1st wedding anniversary. I can’t believe it’s been one year tomorrow since their beautiful wedding. It seems every day lately I’m thinking how fast time is flying by!

And again today I realized how important relationships are for all of us. Then I started thinking about goals.  I know that we set lots of goals for our business and for our personal life but how often do we set relationship goals?  I think for me I take my relationships for granted so I don’t remember to set goals for that important part of my life.

How about you?  Shall we start?

Possible relationship goals:

  • Plan date nights with our spouse/loved one
  • Plan special time with our children
  • Plan a call-a-day to a friend (not a Facebook post – a phone call!)
  • Plan special dinners
  • Plan walks or bike rides
  • Plan game or movie nights
  • Etc.

What ideas do you have?

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