If you’re not ok, say so

Things were going well, really well. I had done the warm up fine and I was lifting my weights just fine.

Then, out of the blue I became extremely light headed and had a strong feeling I was going to faint.

I was smart and fell to the ground before anything happened.

kosama-tools-2I had all the right tools. The proper amount of sleep the night before, the shoes, the weight-lifting gloves, the proper size weights for me, and my water. All of this didn’t change the fact that for some reason I almost fainted.

I will admit to you what I usually do in times when I feel weak. I fake it. I don’t want to admit that anything is wrong.

Silly, right? But, do you ever do that?

Because I had the presence of mind to admit something was wrong and fall to the ground instead of ignoring the signs and then actually fainting –  I could regroup.

Our amazing trainer, Margie, came over to see how she could help. She had me sit for a bit, got me a protein bar and very strongly said, “Drink lots of water.” I did and was able to resume the workout – although at a slower pace.

Because I showed my weakness I received help.

There is a real lesson here!

It’s ok to admit when things are not ok. This is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.

Do you need to ask for help today instead of faking that everything is ok? Take it from me; it’s the right thing to do!


One would think I would talk about being thankful today

After all, tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day here in the US.

And, I am very thankful. In fact, every night for years I write down at least 3 things I’m grateful for from the day.

I hope you are extremely thankful, too.

But, I figured you received enough ‘Thanksgiving’ newsletters this week.

I want to talk to you about 3 words. Just 3 words

I. Love. You..

Can there be any more powerful words than those? Do you say them enough? Do you hear them enough?

I grew up with parents from the World War II and Great Depression era. They rarely said “I love you.” In fact, my dad never did. I think this may have been common among that generation.alex-love-you

When we started having a family I made a vow to myself that I would tell my children how much I loved them any chance I got. And, I did and I do to this day even though they are all adults.

Personally, I don’t think we can say it enough or hear those words enough.

I feel so fortunate that near the end of my dad’s life he started telling me he loved me and it was music to my ears!

Now, my 92-year-young mom says it to me continually.

Now I get to hear it from my grandchildren. Click the play button on the photo to hear my precious Alexander tell me.  I want to hug the stuffing out of him every time I hear it!

As you enter this wonderful holiday season with Thanksgiving and Christmas let’s enter it with a feeling of love and appreciation. Not just on the actual holiday but every day in between.

Who needs to hear “I love you” from you today?

This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. John 15:9 The Message

Is it time for Project Zero?

project-zeroWe have a new contest at my Kosama gym and it’s called Project Zero.

I think it’s genius.

Did you know that, on average, we eat 600 extra calories a day between Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Every day!

Project Zero is all about maintaining our current weight and maybe, just maybe, perhaps losing a few pounds. But, the focus is maintaining.

What a concept!

I think many of us are always trying to do something better – whatever that ‘better’ is.  And, that is great but maybe it’s time for a break.

What about enjoying taking some time to maintain? What about giving yourself permission to just ‘be’ where you are now.

There are seasons for everything.  There’s a right time for everything.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 tells us:
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

Is it your time for Project Zero?

Some may call it a mess; I call it revealing my dreams

I’m organized. Plain and simple. There is neatness all around me.

Except, for right now, in my office workroom. It may look like a tornado has blown through but it’s actually creativity in action.

office-workroom-vision-board-in-progressI’ve always thought I was a proactive person but lately I realize I’ve been living reactively. Reacting to circumstances, people, and life. It’s not working.

No more. I’ve always been a goal setter but then the goals sit in a notebook or hidden somewhere in my computer.

Starting now I’m getting clear on my authentic life, letting go of what’s in the way – and then clearly connecting with my dreams while designing a vision that calls to me.

Enter the Vision Board. And, I’m having a blast designing mine even though the ‘mess’ is driving me crazy! But, that’s why they invented doors that shut.

I’ve done Vision Boards in the past and it is truly amazing when you get really clear on what you want and find images that represent those feelings what can happen.

But, just like hiding my goals in notebooks or the computer it doesn’t do any good unless our dreams our forefront every day.

On December 2, I’m going to be giving my 1st ever Create Your Life Vision Board Workshop in Sioux Falls. I can’t wait!

I made a Vision Board to represent the type of gals I want to attend. She can be of any age vision-board-attendeesbut she comes in with a smile on her face and ready to take the time to get clear on what she wants. This workshop is all about her and we will celebrate where she is and where she wants to be and then – confidence blossoms.

The gals will then place their Vision Board in their office or home and be reminded daily of their dreams and the action steps to make them happen.

A Vision Board or any other method of tracking goals is nothing without an action plan.

You may say to yourself that January is really the best time to do this work. Sorry, but no. The time is now. Why do you feel you must wait 2 months?

What is so magical about January?

If you are in the Sioux Falls area you need to come to my workshop! If you are interested just reply with ‘tell me more’.

If you are not in this area I’m working on a way to give this workshop virtually. I want to be able to see you all the virtual attendees and they see me so not sure how to make this happen.

But, I will figure it out!
If your life, work, relationships, etc. are not where you want them to be what are you going to do about it?

Maybe it’s time for you to get clear on what you want, let your creativity blossom, make a visual reminder of your dreams, and then act. If not now, when?

If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; but when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed. Proverbs 29:18 The Message Bible


You are fabulous

Why is it (and maybe it’s just true for me but I’m betting it’s true for others) easier to repeat negative things people say about us then good things? I have no trouble telling my husband if I get an e-mail that tells me what I’m doing wrong, but I gloss over positive comments that I get.

Recently I got back from a speaking engagement and have been getting the most wonderful e-mails from the group. One person said “I’ve got to say your workshop was by far one of the most informative, entertaining, and relevant conferences I’ve attended in many years.” Wow! I beamed for a long time! I wanted to share her comment with others but them almost stopped. You see, what if you think I’m bragging by telling you this? That’s when I realized that it’s must easier to pass on negative comments than positive ones.

Why is that? For me it goes way back to childhood. I was told “don’t let that go to your head” or “don’t think too much of yourself”. I think that we should let things go to our head and we should think big of our self. If we don’t, who is?

addi-bunnyI love my granddaughter’s confidence. I am always telling her how amazing she is and she smiles confidently!

Great self-esteem and true confidence comes from within and then we can let that shine on others. I’m not talking about being obnoxious and me, me, me. I’m saying it is a good thing to think that we are awesome and to treasure when other people realize the same thing.

Quick, write down 5 fabulous things about yourself. What was your first reaction to that request? Set those thoughts aside and do it anyway. Hopefully you’ll keep going and write 100 awesome things! You are an amazing person.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

A quote by Marianne Williamson from A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of a Course in Miracles

It’s time to shine your light!

Want to take action now?! Walk into your closet feeling really, really fabulous. As you look around you’re going to see things that a fabulous person would not wear. Give these items away and feel free!

Run the mile you are in

I am finally back at run-the-mile-you-are-inthe gym. With being sick, travel, and mom’s accident it’s been way too long.

On my first day back I noticed something that has been there for a while but I never saw it.

On the Goal Wall is the phrase ‘run the mile you are in’.

I stopped. Run the mile you are in.

Immediately I thought of all the times I’ve tried to be like someone else. Tried to market my business like they did. Tried to parent like they did. Tried to give presentations like they did.

And, you know what? It never worked. Only when I am running my own mile am I congruent in every way.

I posted this on my Facebook page and a friend of mine commented that when she read it she started thinking about how many times she rehashes her own mile. Or what she did wrong or worrying about tomorrow’s mile.

Good points!

How about if we all get clear on what our mile is and then run like we’ve never run before. And, don’t look back!



Just 3 things

If you read my last week’s blog post then you know about my precious mom’s fall.

Sign at my gym

Sign at my gym

Between seeing her and visits with medical staff, things with my family, and getting ready for a speaking trip I keep saying “Sweat, smile, and repeat.”

Just 3 things.

Sometimes in life that’s all one can do.

Sweat: Embracing the physical work and emotional stress while being present for each person and moment

Smile: Knowing God is in charge

Repeat: Doing this over and over many times a day

Perhaps these 3 things are what you need today!

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